Monday, November 22, 2010

Are we still having this conversation??????

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Gay marriage and same sex parenting have been a couple of hot topics for longer than I'd like to know.  They have been covered on two particularly fabulous blogs here Woogsworld and Mammamia.

I just don't get it.  I have never actually seen the big deal about whether a man and a man get married or a child has two mums.  I am not being naive or particularly left wing when I say this but I do not understand why this is such a big deal.  I always think if two people love each other and want to - then get married, if you want to have children and you can love them and provide for them - do it!

I know far too many straight people that have been married and divorce, they cheat on each other, they stay married and hate each other, they basically suck at being married.  Or they could be like me and be the straight couple that have no real interest in getting married . There are many great straight couples that have wonderful marriages but I'm sure if you asked them why their marriage works it would not be because one has a penis and the other a vagina.

I also know straight parents that regret having their children, leave their children in questionable care, do not really give a damn about their children or their education, rights, experience , etc.   I am a straight parent but I do not think , by any stretch of the imagination, my parenting skills came from the fact I like to have sex with a man or that I am in a 'regular couple'.

On the other hand I also am very lucky to know some great couples and single people who are gay.  They have great relationships and are wonderful with the children in their lives.  Yes, just like with straight people there are gay people that are good and bad parents or good and bad at relationships. 

What I am trying to say is how can we, as a society, equate sexual orientation to whether a person is able to be a parent or enter into a marriage? How is it  a government's right to stand back and say 'well all we really know about you is you are gay so sorry no child/marriage for you?'. 

I am horrified that these issues are still so dominant in our society and I am hoping by the time my daughter is an adult she wont be still writing about this.  I am hoping that by the time the Madam is my age our country would have progressed, our world we be more equal and all those people that want to will be married and all those kids that need great parents will have them.


Anonymous said...

With you 100% sister, can't believe this shit is still an issue here and now in 2010. What the? *shakes head*

PinkPatentMaryJanes said...

Absolutely. Why are we talking about it and not saying, "This is antiquated, let's change it?" Why on earth shouldn't people who love each other be allowed to marry? Why on earth should two people who want to have a baby not be allowed to do whatever they can to have that child.

I'm so angry that these arguments all stem from a ridiculous belief that homosexuals shouldn't exist. Well, they do, and they always will. I don't see people saying, "Well, homosexuals shouldn't be allowed to vote, or pay taxes..."

Tas said...

Great post. Sums it up brilliantly.