Thank you for restoring my self esteem, making me a better mum & twitter!

I must first of all say a huge thank you to those who left a comment on my last post (and on twitter).  I actually had my moment with a few of the 'ladies' I wrote about (from the little bit "different" group) today.  I kept all the comments running in my head and it actually helped.  I just sat back, took it all in and walked away without that feeling of just having my self esteem smashed.  So thank you my lovelies.

Last night I was reading Hayley's blog The Trousse.  Hayley also has a blog and online store The Little Pinwheel.  I have followed Hayley's writing for a little while - she is one of those people I think would be uber cool in real life.  But is writing posts about being a raw mum - you know those moments that work or don't work, etc.  When she wrote this I absolutely thought it was brilliant.  Now I am a stay at home mum of one and the madam does get my attention but it usually is divided between her and the Mr, or phone calls, emails, mopping, life etc.  So now I am working on 40 mins - 40 mins of undivided attention.  40 mins that lets her know that I love and respect her.  That she can be whoever with me and I will always be there.

The Mr has been away for a week and I have been on a bit of a purge - one garage sale and a mini skip - plus my sister who would through out everything if I let her (I am grateful for her help though).  My money is on that he gets back and doesn't even notice anything is gone.

With him not here though I have finally worked out the world of twitter - and Emily is right as she writes here - it is actually pretty cool - so the new black! So come and chat to us x

Friendships, bitchfest or is it just life?

Cartoon from here

I am finding more and more that I trust the wrong people.  Especially the wrong women.  I have a great group of friends who I adore and they are great - I met most of them through one friend who I have known for about 25 years. We all have our moments and go in and out of each others lives but in the end we are all there, straight up, no bullshit with each other.  We drive each other crazy, have a fantastic time together, drink wine & tea, and everything we say we say it from the heart as the truth and live with the result.  The interesting thing is they are all probably 5 to 20 years older than me (I'm 31).

I am finding though another group of women have come into my life, mainly through the common thread of having a small child and family connection, they are younger than me.  I don't know what it is but it seems to be a really different way of socialising.  You can say what you like , just don't say it to the person you are talking about.  Parenting skills are criticised even when some of them (one couple particularly) are brilliant parents.  Fence sitting on every issue, problem, query is a full time occupation.  Unfortunately  I feel like I have maybe been a little to honest about life in general with this group and now it is being used against me. 

I know it all sounds so second grade.................

I am not without my faults I know that.  I can be way to over protective of the Mr & Madam,  I have been a complete bitch and been called on it.  I do try to not say anything that I would never say to someones face.  The worst thing is in these situations I am kind of a once bitten forever shy person. 

So my question is.....

How do you know when to trust someone?  Is honesty the best policy with all friendships or just some?

This weekend.....

This weekend involved....
- The park
- A garage sale where I sold some stuff and gained an earless rabbit
- The dog karma
- Cups of tea at Mum & dad's
- A good night with my girls xx