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I am finding more and more that I trust the wrong people. Especially the wrong women. I have a great group of friends who I adore and they are great - I met most of them through one friend who I have known for about 25 years. We all have our moments and go in and out of each others lives but in the end we are all there, straight up, no bullshit with each other. We drive each other crazy, have a fantastic time together, drink wine & tea, and everything we say we say it from the heart as the truth and live with the result. The interesting thing is they are all probably 5 to 20 years older than me (I'm 31).
I am finding though another group of women have come into my life, mainly through the common thread of having a small child and family connection, they are younger than me. I don't know what it is but it seems to be a really different way of socialising. You can say what you like , just don't say it to the person you are talking about. Parenting skills are criticised even when some of them (one couple particularly) are brilliant parents. Fence sitting on every issue, problem, query is a full time occupation. Unfortunately I feel like I have maybe been a little to honest about life in general with this group and now it is being used against me.
I know it all sounds so second grade.................
I am not without my faults I know that. I can be way to over protective of the Mr & Madam, I have been a complete bitch and been called on it. I do try to not say anything that I would never say to someones face. The worst thing is in these situations I am kind of a once bitten forever shy person.
So my question is.....
How do you know when to trust someone? Is honesty the best policy with all friendships or just some?