Tattooed ladies & an outspoken 4 year old

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You know how you get to that point where you think you are doing okay as a parent.  The madam is four now so she is goes to the toilet herself, feeds herself, mostly sleeps well, is a fairly nice kid so I probably became a little complacent.

Yesterday changed all that....

It was pay day, and as usual the pay didn't go in until five, so it was a late dash to the shops.  I had one grumpy four year old in tow so I tried to make it as quick and painless as possible.  I even pulled the bribery - ' If you are good I'll buy...' card - yes it was not a classy parent day.

Now to understand what happened next you probably need to know a bit about us.  The Mr has tattoos, my sister is tattooed, my friends have tattoos, my brother & sister in laws are tattooed, we have tattoo art in our house - I have taken the Madam to numerous tattoo parlours in search of someone to do one for me.  She is surrounded my tattooed people, hippies, conservative what have you!

She walks down the supermarket and spots a stunning girl who is covered head to toe in tattoos with long dreads and proceeds to say at top volume,

" What did you draw on yourself? Girls shouldn't have tattoos just Daddy's"

Needless to say I apologised and tore out of there at top speed  with the Madam still at full volume now going

" Mum I knew she was a girl cause she had big boobies like you"

Yes I followed that situation up with a lecture about inappropriate behaviour, everyones right to look how they want and why on earth did she think it was so strange when everyone we know has tattoos....

Then I remembered apart from the fact it was just 'one of those moments  we had  also recently seen the reigning conservative female in our lives - now I know why those visits are few and far between.

* My lesson: Don't take her shopping after 4pm, if I don't want her to say something she will say it, she takes everything in so try and override the negative with SO MUCH more cool things*

My list.........cause I've been naughty

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I don't know why but for some reason lately the words aren't flowing - I can think it I just can't put it on the screen.  Apparently the photo's aren't flowing either as my beloved Nikon died so now I'm looking for a repair man .  But I have constantly been reading every one's blogs and as always am inspired by all that is around me in blogworld......

So instead of writing, as such , I thought I'd list some things that have happened.....

* The Mr is still away for work and comes home on a fortnightly basis - so while his away I have been trying to catch up with some friends! (Maybe he needs a few more jobs away so I can maintain my social life hahaha)

* Summer has hit Adelaide....and yes as much as I am trying I am on the verge of whingeing about the heat....but I am enjoying the balmy (tropical for Adelaide) mornings...and mangoes...there is always mangoes.

* Ruby Gloom is soooooooo my favourite kids program, when I grow up I want to be just like her!

* The madam is almost finished Montessori school for the year....I think I will cry it has been such a beautiful inclusion in her (and my ) life!

* I am finding I know who my wonderful friends are and they are brilliant people - whether we can sit and have a wine or can only twitter/email due to distance you rock!

* I am over unethical psychics/medium/clairvoyant wannabes freaking people out for self serving purposes.  You have a gift to share NOT to scare the crap out of people for your own purposes. (I am a medium so I can say this with experience).

* We are moving in the New Year.  Only 20 minutes away.  But I love moving and new beginnings....I am so excited....we will be in an old cottage that we will redo vintage style.(any ideas let me know!)

* Mangoes .... did I mention them?I love them.

* I love that Kathleen Hanna was/is such a great feminist role model, even years after I discovered her in highschool.  I hope the madam is as inspired by great women like her.

* Green smoothies in the morning...best thing for breakfast.

Maybe this will keep the flow going.........

Inspired Kate

I have started a new blog/photo project and would love it if you would come and have a look.  I am hoping this will be the start of something new for me - my possible career as an artist/photographer/writer.

  Any advice, opinions, feedback is all appreciated as you know

I am starting to live and die by my blogworld :)

http://www.inspiredkate.blogspot.com/

Are we still having this conversation??????

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Gay marriage and same sex parenting have been a couple of hot topics for longer than I'd like to know.  They have been covered on two particularly fabulous blogs here Woogsworld and Mammamia.

I just don't get it.  I have never actually seen the big deal about whether a man and a man get married or a child has two mums.  I am not being naive or particularly left wing when I say this but I do not understand why this is such a big deal.  I always think if two people love each other and want to - then get married, if you want to have children and you can love them and provide for them - do it!

I know far too many straight people that have been married and divorce, they cheat on each other, they stay married and hate each other, they basically suck at being married.  Or they could be like me and be the straight couple that have no real interest in getting married . There are many great straight couples that have wonderful marriages but I'm sure if you asked them why their marriage works it would not be because one has a penis and the other a vagina.

I also know straight parents that regret having their children, leave their children in questionable care, do not really give a damn about their children or their education, rights, experience , etc.   I am a straight parent but I do not think , by any stretch of the imagination, my parenting skills came from the fact I like to have sex with a man or that I am in a 'regular couple'.

On the other hand I also am very lucky to know some great couples and single people who are gay.  They have great relationships and are wonderful with the children in their lives.  Yes, just like with straight people there are gay people that are good and bad parents or good and bad at relationships. 

What I am trying to say is how can we, as a society, equate sexual orientation to whether a person is able to be a parent or enter into a marriage? How is it  a government's right to stand back and say 'well all we really know about you is you are gay so sorry no child/marriage for you?'. 

I am horrified that these issues are still so dominant in our society and I am hoping by the time my daughter is an adult she wont be still writing about this.  I am hoping that by the time the Madam is my age our country would have progressed, our world we be more equal and all those people that want to will be married and all those kids that need great parents will have them.

Things I found to share...

• Amazing photography and an inspiring video........Fly from Nearby (plus it made me want to move to Melbourne!)
• If you want to redecorate...be warned... it's fabulous.........Ish & Chi
• Just beautiful......6.5st
• Some great advice I will try and follow
• The best posters ever
• the funniest dog photo... this would scare the daylights out of me
• Garden to table......I can't wait to have a functioning vegie garden in our new house!

Animal Kingdom

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The  Mr has gone back to work and the madam and I have had a bit of a slack/inside day today.  Even though I had a lot of stop starts and a few interruptions I have managed to watch Animal Kingdom.  It is brilliant - if you haven't seen it - get it!

I absolutely adore anything Australian but I know just because it is Australian doesn't mean it will be great but this is.  Set in Melbourne it is the story of a teenage boy who's mum dies so he has to go live with his Grandma and Uncles.  They are involved in a variety of criminal activity so it makes for an interesting lifestyle when you combine that with a city of corrupt police. 

The cast include Ben Mendelsohn who I adore.  I have seen all of his movies and he never fails to amaze me.  He can play a complete asshole and you still want to like him.  Sullivan Stapleton is also in this film and as always is fantastic as well as being so nice to look at!

But the stand out has to be Jacki Weaver  who shows just how hard it is sometimes to be a mum and how , as a mum, you'll do anything to protect your kids.  She completely blew me away.

Anyway, it is out on DVD, so grab a copy or I'll lend you mine but it is a great (grown up) movie - you wont be sorry.  If you do see it I would love to know what you think!

Freedom

This is my new favourite song....I have followed Kid Mac for a while (a good Aussie lad!)....this is his new single......happy Monday xx

Definitely a summer anthem